singleness

Singleness

I recently finished reading, "This is Me Letting You Go" by Heidi Prebe. A paragraph in the chapter titled- What They Don't Tell you About Love- really hit home, and I re-read the passage multiple times because it resonated so deeply.

They don't tell you that you'll forget to be loved. That at some point in the process of reaching and striving and growing and moving always forward in your life, you'll let love slide by the wayside. That you'll subtly forget what it's like to be touched, to be treasured, to be adored and admired by another human being with a mind and a body every bit as real as yours. They don't map out the dull, inconsolable ache that grows inside of you the longer you let yourself forget that you're desiring of love. They don't tell you that you need it like water and air and that no matter how hard you try to prove the opposite, a tiny part of you will always be the smallest bit unfulfilled without it. 

In this chapter of my life I am embracing every bit of singleness. The ability to come and go as I please. No one to worry about or check in with throughout the day. Shimmying as I see fit and doing exactly what I want. 

M&M

However, I know that is why the passage above resonated so deeply. In the midst of all the fun that comes with doing your own thing, there is a piece that is missing. Some days more then others I can pin point it so vividly, and then other weeks it shows up out of no where. The mindless texts and vicious cycle of online dating is excruciating. The "Peter Pan" men who seem to have overtaken Austin is growing more and more every week. We're in the dating trenches.

I will not let the thrill, butterflies, and excitement that come with dating disappear for me. I refuse to become jaded and give up, but choosing to refocus my energy on relationships that bring real value. I am ready more then ever to be touched, to be treasured, to be adored and admired by another human being with a mind and a body every bit as real as mine, and share all the amazing, crazy, and hard things with that special man. My partner in crime. 

What are your thoughts? Does the excerpt strike a nerve in your soul?

Meet me in the Middle

If this blog post could play music, "The Middle" by Zedd, Maren Morris, & Grey would be playing, and I would be jamming out. The lyrics encompass a relationship; however, the premise of the song goes hand in hand with this excerpt. 

SJP

Within the past few years I have become very present to the ever changing stages of womanhood. I am fortunate to be surrounded by all types of women (single, married, with kids, without kids, divorced) given my personal training business, and each are on a different journey. Going from brand new in a career and trying to find one's way, to getting in a serious relationship, to diving head first in owning a business, to getting married and possibly having kids. With each milestone comes amazing stories and a new purpose, but also an unspoken judgement between each other. 

I am baffled at how being single (aka: no husband nor kids) seems to mean that you must accommodate to the ones who have these things. Why is it that my plans of hanging with friends, staying up late working, or simply wanting to lay by a pool or sit on a patio and enjoy a cocktail are considered second rate? It is my mission for women to be empowered and confident in whatever path they take, and I take it to heart when we feel the opposite. I would love to get a phone call and have a friend or family member want to meet me somewhere with their kiddo that is not 100% on their time frame and only ideal for them. Time is precious. I believe it is just as important to sacrifice single gal plans as it is to sacrifice kiddo nap time. To think opposite is not fair. Meet me in the middle. 

As women, I long for us to meet in the middle, to respect each other and our choices. Our lives are different and we are on our own journey. Ideas of fun may have shifted, and I believe it's important for both parties to understand we’re finding happiness in our own way. I am excited and ready to meet my partner-in-crime and connect with friends and family who are in that stage of life, but until then, I am going to walk in my single woman shoes and continue to embrace life with every bit of vigor, love, and gusto.