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7 Deadly Fitness Lies Sold to Women

I listened to my Mind Pump guys on episode 1077 break down the 7 Deadly Fitness Lies Sold to Women. They are so spot on, and I could not agree more. Time and time again, I share how I am so very thankful to have a father who demanded so much out of his daughters and treated us equally as our brother when coaching us in sports through out high school. One of my favorite memories that I still laugh about to this day is when my Poppie (grandpa) came to visit us during Christmas break when I was in 9th grade. He showed up at my basketball practice and was shocked with how tough my dad was on us girls during practice. I’ll never forget him telling my grandpa — “Girls want to be treated equally. Well, I am going to coach these young ladies like I do my football players and demand 100% effort at every practice.” My dad was so ahead of the times (see lie #3) and instilled in me fundamental skills that I have carried over into my adult life.

Below is a recap from the podcast.

LIE #1: HEAVY WEIGHTS BUILD “BULKY” BODIES AND LIGHT WEIGHTS/HIGH REPS BUILD “TONED” BODIES
This myth has demonized building muscle. It is critical to build muscle if you want to speed up your metabolism and lose body fat. Muscles do not tone; they build or they shrink. PERIOD. Toning is used to describe the feeling of muscles getting more firm, which is the beginning stages of building muscle. The most effective way to get a lean, tight, defined body is performing compound lifts (deadlifts, squats, bent over rows, presses, barbell hip thrusts) that are relatively heavy at 6-12 rep ranges.

LIE #2: WOMEN SHOULD NOT EAT IN A CALORIE SURPLUS/BULK
Calories fuel the muscle building process and this in return increases the metabolism. The goal is to get to a place where you are able to eat more calories then what your body is accustomed to and still lose body fat due to an increased metabolism from adding muscle. Most women are always in a calorie deficit and trying to cut, which is why over time it becomes harder and harder to lose weight, because your body has become accustomed to eating in a calorie deficit for a long period of time. It is completely ok to cut, but on the same note it is great to go through periods of adding more calories to the diet. Plus, in the long run this enhances your quality of life. Going to birthday parties, out to dinner, vacations, etc., does not become a stressful situation, but a space to enjoy and thrive, because your body is a fat burning machine.

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LIE #3: WOMEN NEED TO TRAIN DIFFERENTLY THAN MEN
You, as an individual, need to train differently based on personal goals and training history and not because of your sex.

LIE #4: HOW CERTAIN FITNESS CLASSES PROMISE TO CHANGE THE SHAPE OF YOUR MUSCLE IN A SPECIFIC WAY
NEWS FLASH: You are born with your muscle attachments. For example, a muscle attaches at point A and point B. When a muscle contracts, it squeezes and brings those 2 points closer together (aka: bicep curl). You would have to surgically remove your muscle and reattach it to a different point on the bone to elongate the muscle. Clearly, you cannot make a muscle longer.

There is nothing wrong with taking these types of classes if you enjoy them. They do a great job at fatiguing the body, but they do not change the body nearly as fast as resistance training. If you want to shape and sculpt your body in the most effective, efficient, fastest way possible, then strength training needs to be in your arsenal.

Regarding the shape of a muscle, there is room for change, but it takes years, and you have to build a lot of muscle. For example, the girl who wants to build a bigger booty. This does not happen over night and takes years of consistent training to achieve the result. There are also those genetic freaks who rarely train and eat like crap but have the body you aspire to reach. Do not compare yourself to them; that is not real life. I think it is important to embrace the body God gave you, and put in the consistent work to make it the best version possible!

LIE #5: THE NUMBER ON THE SCALE AND THE SIZE OF YOUR CLOTHES SAYS IT ALL
We, as women, need to get over the scale and the size of our clothes. We’re not walking around all day long with a sign saying what size of clothes we wear and our body weight. I know when I am feeling good in my skin I am walking around exuding confidence and feeling like a Goddess, and certainly not giving two-shits what the weight on the scale reads or what a brand of shorts says is my size. For example, a 120lb woman at 33% body fat versus a 145lb woman at 17% body fat. That is a 25lb difference in weight, but a HUGE difference in the way they look based on muscle-to-fat ratio.

LIE #6: PERFORMING HEAVY DEADLIFTS & SQUATS WILL GIVE WOMEN A BIG WAIST
One of the best ways to build a strong core is performing heavy deadlifts and squats, which has been demonstrated in multiple studies through Electromyography (EMG). It is also important to note the hip-to-waist ratio. Maybe your waist added some muscle and grew a 1/2 inch but your booty added 2 inches. That’s an improvement in the hip-to-waist ratio.

LIE #7: SUPPLEMENTS PROMISING EXTREME RESULTS
Don’t believe claims that promise outlandish, unrealistic results.

In a nutshell, Build Muscle + Burn Body Fat + Stop Worrying about the Scale = Looking Like a Goddess!

Reality Check

Body Image

A picture is worth a thousand words. It’s amazing how you can feel like a Goddess one second and then beat yourself up the next all because of a picture. Whether it's a bad angle, goofy pose, standing versus sitting, good lighting versus bad lighting, that one little change can wreak havoc on your mindset. I give you exhibit A to the right. Only 24 hours difference in the three pictures. One moment I'm scoffing at the way I look and the next I'm loving what I see. I share this to make a point and give us (very much myself) a reality check. Give yourself a break and let it be.

One of the favorite things of my career is the ability to train consistently, be on my feet, and stay active through out the day; however, the most challenging part of my career is feeling I need to look perfect. Ripped 6-pack abs, perfectly shaped legs and ass, slender arms, the list could go on.

Full disclosure and honesty. I can look in the mirror and take a picture and love every ounce of my being and within the same day feel the complete opposite. I have always struggled with keeping my mid-section lean. I don’t want to pull the card of “it’s my genetics,” but when everyone in your family battles with leanness in the mid-section regardless of how consistently they train and eat on point, then there is a little truth to it.

However, what I am very present to is loving my body and truly owning every beautiful imperfection. Kicking ass in the gym. Being able to hip thrust close to 300lb, squat heavy, sprint, run bleachers, rock out dips and push ups like a boss, and even do pull-ups. Choosing to not obsess over food. This use to be a BIG battle, but by the grace of God it has improved leaps and bounds every passing year, which now means I can enjoy shared french fries at Revelery brunch, the occasional chips and salsa, margaritas, mimosas, and truly doing LIFE with my friends and family the way I choose. 

So how do I battle negative thoughts when they come blazing in hot? 

  1. Say what I’m thinking and feeling out loud. This is not a whisper but a straight up bold statement. 
  2. Own it. But, then I quickly have a reality check and state what is true. Even if it’s something I do want to improve upon, I switch to constructive criticism and remove self doubt and hate. 
  3. Create a new story and one that is truth. This could be a paradigm shift if it is creating a new behavior, or it could be a simple reality check and realizing how completely irrational I am thinking and behaving.

By having a raw and honest conversation with my sis this week, it inspired me to share openly and with some rawness. I am so thankful I was able to do the steps above with her on the phone and get present to how blessed, healthy, vibrant, and beautiful my life truly is.